I’m Not Trying To Fix You. (A Letter to Those in Therapy)

As a therapist and counselor, I am here to embrace you. The good, bad, messy, silly — all the parts. So many clients come to therapy saying “Fix me!” or “Just help me erase or get rid of these painful memories!”or “Make me better!”, especially when they’ve been struggling with pain from trauma, grief, a […]

Be Yourself. Science Says You’ll be Happier.

“Positive emotion alienated from the exercise of character leads to emptiness, inauthenticity, depression, and as we age the growing realization that we are fidgeting until we die.” What makes a person truly happy? Not the, “I just ate a really awesome slice of cheesecake happy” but true, lasting emotional satisfaction? Scientists like Martin Seligman have […]

How to Save A Life: Eating Disorder Prevention in Wichita, Kansas

With rising rates of disordered eating, it is impossible to have enough treatment providers for all of those who suffer. And unfortunately, many suffer with little to no resources. I became intimately aware of this when moving to Wichita and seeing that there are less than a handful of providers in the area, and of […]

The Art of Listening in a Culture of Distraction.

Listen. In this day and age, it’s common to see many on their cell phones during social situations. Loved ones, parents, the person across the table. Through the addictive nature of instant gratification we are socialized to be constantly stimulated and distracted. When we are distracted, like a parent who is checking their status updates […]