Being Okay with “Good Enough” from a Recovering Perfectionist

Admittedly, I still struggle with accepting “good enough” or being “okay” at things from time-to-time. Noticing patterns of my past, I used to work as hard as I could to be as good as I could at every venture that I try without setting realistic boundaries, limits, or having much grace for myself in the […]

Domestic Violence: Why Can’t They “Just Leave”?

Prior to becoming fascinated about the dynamics of domestic violence, I remember thinking, “Why don’t women/men in these relationships just pack up their bags and leave?” or “Why don’t they just go to a shelter?” I initially understood very little about the complexities of walking away or the complexities of staying. According to the NY […]

How Avoiding Other People Means Rejecting Ourselves

When we avoid dealing or responding to a situation or person, we are really saying no to the hard things that are coming up within ourselves when dealing with that situation. *Whether we are conscious of these hard feelings or not.* This is really unfortunate, because those hard feelings can be a great opportunity for […]

I’m Not Trying To Fix You. (A Letter to Those in Therapy)

As a therapist and counselor, I am here to embrace you. The good, bad, messy, silly — all the parts. So many clients come to therapy saying “Fix me!” or “Just help me erase or get rid of these painful memories!”or “Make me better!”, especially when they’ve been struggling with pain from trauma, grief, a […]