Welcome our new bi-lingual therapist: Ignacio Ayala, Licensed Social Worker

“I am a licensed social worker with over 8 years of experience helping individuals and families with behavioral health issues. I am bilingual in English and Spanish. With my background as a veteran, a Firefighter/EMT with 27+ years of experience responding to crisis and emergencies, I bring a unique view and understanding of veterans, first […]

How to Survive Thanksgiving with Your Mental Health Intact (Part 2 – 2019)

Tip #2: Set boundaries. (Tip #1 is in the previous blog post) Set self boundaries on what you’ll talk about, think about, and how you’ll react around difficult family members. As much as we’d like to, we CANNOT change how other people treat us, what they comment on, and the questions they ask/don’t ask. We CAN […]

How To Have A (Mentally) Healthy Thanksgiving, Tip #1

Eyes on your own plate. Our relationship with food is personal and people do various things for various reasons. Especially if you’ve made dietary changes for gut health or are trying to not feel shame from “dieting” relatives because you love Grandma’s pumpkin pie (who doesn’t?), this key phrase will be helpful. Don’t judge others, and […]

Trustworthiness Skill #6: Non-judgment

Non-judgement. We all instinctively have a first thought, a first judgment. However, I have taught people that it is far more useful to think that the second thought counts most as it is our pre-frontal cortex’s response to our first, primal brain thought that could have been created for a multitiude of reasons. Judgment is […]

Trustworthiness Skill #3: Accountability

Accountability is our ability to own our parts in every situation. Crappy boyfriend/girlfriend? What did WE do to contribute to picking that person? Crappy situation? What was our part in creating it or going along with it. I find that accountability often pairs well with boundaries when it comes to ensuring that we make our […]

Top 3 Skills To Make Your Relationships Successful

It’s likely obvious that successful relationships require more than 3 skills, however, if we are going to pick the skills (or tools in the tool belt) that would likely provide the best bang for your emotional energy, here are the top 3 that I would recommend. As a therapist that is trained systemically, and helped […]