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How to Survive Thanksgiving with Your Mental Health Intact (Part 2 – 2019)

Tip #2: Set boundaries. (Tip #1 is in the previous blog post) Set self boundaries on what you’ll talk about, think about, and how you’ll react around difficult family members. As much as we’d like to, we CANNOT change how other people treat us, what they comment on, and the questions they ask/don’t ask. We CAN […]

How To Have A (Mentally) Healthy Thanksgiving, Tip #1

Eyes on your own plate. Our relationship with food is personal and people do various things for various reasons. Especially if you’ve made dietary changes for gut health or are trying to not feel shame from “dieting” relatives because you love Grandma’s pumpkin pie (who doesn’t?), this key phrase will be helpful. Don’t judge others, and […]

Trustworthiness Skill #7: Generosity

When I first say the word “generosity”, many of my clients think they have this down. My over-achieving mom’s say things like, “yep, I’m definitely generous” because they can be so giving of their time and even valuables. But this type of generosity is not about giving time, giving of yourself, or giving “things” to […]

Trustworthiness Skill #6: Non-judgment

Non-judgement. We all instinctively have a first thought, a first judgment. However, I have taught people that it is far more useful to think that the second thought counts most as it is our pre-frontal cortex’s response to our first, primal brain thought that could have been created for a multitiude of reasons. Judgment is […]

Trustworthiness Skill #3: Accountability

Accountability is our ability to own our parts in every situation. Crappy boyfriend/girlfriend? What did WE do to contribute to picking that person? Crappy situation? What was our part in creating it or going along with it. I find that accountability often pairs well with boundaries when it comes to ensuring that we make our […]

Trustworthiness Skill #2: Reliability

This week we are here to talk about the R word, “Reliability”.  Reliability is one of the most straight forward concepts of trustworthiness, but many of my well-intentioned clients struggle with it (I’ll explain why below). It is the notion that someone does what they say they will, consistently. That they will show up when […]

Trustworthiness Skill #1: Boundaries

When trying to gauge if a person is trustworthy, one of the most important concepts is: boundaries. Many of my clients have heard about boundaries when they come into my office. “A boundary is a stop sign” or “A boundary is telling someone NO.”  However, they tend to forget about emotional boundaries, intellectual boundaries, and […]