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Trustworthiness Skill #3: Accountability

Accountability is our ability to own our parts in every situation. Crappy boyfriend/girlfriend? What did WE do to contribute to picking that person? Crappy situation? What was our part in creating it or going along with it. I find that accountability often pairs well with boundaries when it comes to ensuring that we make our […]

Trustworthiness Skill #2: Reliability

This week we are here to talk about the R word, “Reliability”.  Reliability is one of the most straight forward concepts of trustworthiness, but many of my well-intentioned clients struggle with it (I’ll explain why below). It is the notion that someone does what they say they will, consistently. That they will show up when […]

Trustworthiness Skill #1: Boundaries

When trying to gauge if a person is trustworthy, one of the most important concepts is: boundaries. Many of my clients have heard about boundaries when they come into my office. “A boundary is a stop sign” or “A boundary is telling someone NO.”  However, they tend to forget about emotional boundaries, intellectual boundaries, and […]

Top 3 Skills To Make Your Relationships Successful

It’s likely obvious that successful relationships require more than 3 skills, however, if we are going to pick the skills (or tools in the tool belt) that would likely provide the best bang for your emotional energy, here are the top 3 that I would recommend. As a therapist that is trained systemically, and helped […]